We all have wrestled with forgiveness at some point in our lives. The reality of living in this world is that we will get hurt. Jesus made forgiveness obligatory for His followers.
But what is forgiveness?
Releasing of debt
It is the releasing of a debt we are owed by someone sinning (intentionally or unintentionally) against us.
If you lend someone $10k and they don’t pay you back, forgiveness is where you don’t send them the bill anymore. They owe you nothing.
This is what it means when we say that “Forgiveness resets the standard.”
It is from the heart
35 “That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters[m] from your heart.” Mat 18:35
Although forgiveness is from the heart it is more of an act of will, and as Kris Vallotton says it not necessarily “a manifestation of desire”.
If I am owed $10k by someone and I let them off their debt it probably isn’t going to feel good.
Forgiveness is the beginning of the process out of pain
How to process pain healthily
There are a number of misconceptions about pain.
Pain is not bad
Pain is part of what makes you human. Jesus felt every range of emotion under the sun but He didn’t sin. It is what you do with your feelings that counts.
- Pain is not part of our fallen nature
- Pain won’t go away with time
Trauma sits there. It impacts the developing brains of males and females differently, according to a new study from the Stanford University School of Medicine and the Early Life Stress and Pediatric Anxiety Program.
How to process our pain
- Be real with your pain
- Allow your heart to speak
- Name your pain out loud
- Don’t self medicate your pain: Internet, Facebook your pain, porn alcohol
- Don’t attach judgement to pain, it amplifies pain
- Speak to God about your pain
- Don’t make big decisions when in pain
- Cry – it is our built in release valve
- Root out any lies that you might embrace
- If stuck in pain, seek help
Other Sermons In This Series
May 02, 2018
April 23, 2018