Made for Connection

Made for Connection

Made from Adam’s Rib

I want to pick up from where we left off in the Biblical account and look at the Lord’s solution to Adam’s aloneness.

21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Genesis 2:21-25

The Symbolism of the Rib

The word for rib here in Genesis 2:21 is “tzela.” The word tzela literally means “side” (e.g. several times in Exodus 26 and Ezekiel 41) – usually referring to the side of a building or structure.

Whether or not it is Adam’s rib, or Adam’s side, God took a something from within Adam, and what he took was close to Adam’s heart, and with this he formed Eve.

This says something about the nature of husband and a wife.

1. Equality with man

“Women were created from the rib of man to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart to be loved by him.”

Matthew Henry

The word ‘Helper’ in Genesis 2 verse 20, is not a subordinate but rather an equal.

The same word helper is used of the Lord himself in Psalm 33:20:

We wait in hope for the Lord;
He is our
help and our shield.

Psalm 33:20

The Fall caused the battle of the sexes:

To the woman he said,

“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”

Genesis 3:16

The tension of the sexes after the Fall:

  • Women desire’s her man in an unhealthy way – look to him for more than he can be. Her natural desires are out of whack.
  • The man’s natural desire’s as leadership are out of whack. He wants to dominate the woman in an unhealthy way. This verse also described a hierarchy where one did not exist before.

2. Women Protect the heart of man

She protects the man’s heart. We see this played out exactly in Genesis 3.

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

Genesis 3:1

Where was Adam in this conversation? It seems that Eve was alone at the time the serpent talked to Eve. The crafty serpent (Satan in the form of a snake) waited for Eve to be alone before approaching her to convince her to disobey God and eat the forbidden fruit. Her aloneness left her vulnerable to temptation.

3. Created a Homing Beacon for Connection

When God took the part of Adam from which He made Eve from, it caused Adam to have to give up something of himself.

22 … and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”

But when Adam finds his Eve, he waxes lyrical. The first recorded words of a human in the Bible are an expression of love in the form of a poem. Adam finds music in his heart when He finds His woman.


24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

A number of years ago Jodie and I were needing some help in our marriage. We sort help of our pastor. She asked us, “What is the purpose of marriage?” My brain automatically filtered through the theologically right answer. I knew what Genesis 2 said.

But whilst my brain came up with this answer, something inside of me told me not to reply. I replied to the pastor, “I don’t know.” Her response to me was not what I expected. She told us, God made marriage for, “Connection.” Connection is a dance that people have to learn the steps of. A major piece of this dance is something called empathy.


Empathy is different from sympathy, which is pity or sorrow for others’ misfortunes. They share a common root in -pathy, from the Greek pathos, “feeling.” Where they differ is in their prefixes: sym- means “with,” while em- means “in.”

Types of empathy: Cognitive Empathy 

Cognitive empathy is being able to rationally understand with the mind what someone is experiencing.

Cognitive empathy is being able to put yourself into someone else’s place, and see their perspective.

Cognitive empathy comes from the head.

Types of empathy: Empathic Resonance

Empathetic resonance is being in the same emotional state as the other person. Whilst it can be most deeply experienced in marriage, it can be experienced in all human relationships. Empathetic resonance is different to being able to observe the emotional state of a person from the outside.

With empathetic resonance, you literally step into the same emotional bubble as the other person and you feel with the person you are relating to. They are no longer alone in their space.


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